Melancholy, that word which popped into my head today. What did it mean exactly? Was the universe trying to tell me something?
Lately with everything going on between the United States government and the COVID-19 pandemic, I have floated between stages of contentment, isolation, frozen and on the edge of depression.
I rarely have energy to remove myself from the couch. What’s going on? What’s wrong with me? I don’t even have topics that interest me to write about.
Really the COVID-19 pandemic isn’t changing my lifestyle in a drastic way. Typically, I stay home, only go out for groceries, doctors appointments and to see Ed’s parents, occasionally we go to parks or site seeing.
Yet these are the things I miss. This is our routine. These are the things I look forward to.
The fact that I am being told what I can and cannot do, I believe is the problem. I also have tons of theories running through my brain about the government, the spread of the COVID-19, fears of the future, almost a constant anxiety, while trying to fit together all of the pieces of this puzzle.
It’s quite maddening! Can you imagine for 5 minutes being in my head? I go from praying to the realization that this may be the end of the world. I go from faith to the apocalypse. I sit on the couch and look around the room and think of things I need to do or want to do and then I dismiss them, not moving at all.
Melancholy, what did it mean? We all know that Google is my steady and reliable friend. Why not put a little research into it?
Melancholy – The happiness of being sad, by definition.
That’s sad! I don’t want to be sad. I don’t want to be depressed. I want to be happy. I want to be excited.
Melancholic individuals tend to be analytical and detail-oriented, and they are deep thinkers and feelers. They are introverted and try to avoid being singled out in a crowd. A melancholic personality leads to self-reliant individuals who are thoughtful, reserved, and often anxious.
Hhhm, sounds a lot like me at different times.
The causes of melancholic-type major depressive disorder are believed to be mostly biological factors; some may have inherited the disorder from their parents. Sometimes stressful situations can trigger episodes of melancholic depression, though this is a contributing cause rather than a necessary or sufficient cause.
Hhhm, could be another aspect of my depression disorder.
They are romantics. Melancholics secretly long for ideal love. This can make for very beautiful, intensely romantic relationships. Generally, melancholics find it difficult to make a move, let alone make the first move.
Hhhm, so me. Until the end, somehow I will build up the courage to make a move. I do have an aggressive side at times.
Additional Personality Types Defined Early On
Sanguine personality type is described primarily as being highly talkative, enthusiastic, active, and social. Sanguines tend to be more extroverted and enjoy being part of a crowd; they find that being social, outgoing, and charismatic is easy to accomplish.Individuals with this personality have a hard time doing nothing and engage in more risk seeking behavior.
Choleric individuals tend to be more extroverted. They are described as independent, decisive, goal-oriented, and ambitious. These combined with their dominant, result-oriented outlook make them natural leaders. In Greek, Medieval, and Renaissance thought, they were also violent, vengeful, and short-tempered.
Melancholic individuals tend to be analytical and detail-oriented, and they are deep thinkers and feelers. They are introverted and try to avoid being singled out in a crowd. A melancholic personality leads to self-reliant individuals who are thoughtful, reserved, and often anxious.They often strive for perfection within themselves and their surroundings, which leads to tidy and detail-oriented behavior.
Phlegmatic individuals tend to be relaxed, peaceful, quiet, and easy-going.They are sympathetic and care about others, yet they try to hide their emotions. Phlegmatic individuals are also good at generalizing ideas or problems to the world and making compromises.
All of the above research comes directly from Google sources, https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_temperaments
Research is interesting in so many ways. One word pops into my head, it makes sense to me that this is how I have been feeling, it make sense this is just one of my many personality traits, this “melancholy” is breaking through.
Coincidence or convinced? Either way the interest still lies in my mind. Psychology is a fascinating realm as is the human mind!
I did find information on things I already knew about treating depression, which relates to the same as treating melancholy.
Adjusting to the stressful situation or crisis
Replacing thoughts of negativity with thoughts of positivity
Increasing positive communication skills
Solving problems and coming up with solutions
Self-care, increasing self-esteem
Regaining self-control or a sense of control over your life