Being selfless is similar to being altruistic — another word for giving to others without looking for personal gain. If you give time, money, or things to other people without expecting something in return, that's selfless
The bible talks about doing for others
Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.
2 Corinthians 9:7
Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.
1 Corinthians 13:3
If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
Honor the Lord with your wealth, with the firstfruits of all your crops.
So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full.
Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back.
Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to act.
1 Chronicles 29:14
But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from you, and we have given you only what comes from your hand.
2 Corinthians 9:11
You will be enriched in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God.
A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.
Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of His glory in Christ Jesus.
You do not have to be a Christian to believe giving is the right thing to do.
There are benefits to helping others
- Giving makes you feel happy, content and satisfied
- Giving is good for your health
- Giving helps one social connection
- Giving evokes ones gratitude
- Giving is simply contagious
Well, not for everyone!
So why do some people refuse to give or help others wthout expecting something in return? Why do others "keep score" of their giving?
It's fairly simple, it's a business transaction. They are not "helping" you. They are conducting business. They are looking at what benefits them, whether that be immediately or in the long run.
Is that selfish? Maybe, maybe not.
Be careful who you ask for help, be mindful when someone says "you can always call if you need help".
Don't change who you are if you are a giver that expects nothing in return, YOU are a beautiful soul. YOU are doing what needs to be done. If YOU are a true "giver", you know that you are giving for a cause, which is going to truly help someone and not just going to satisfy yourself and your ego. Be authentic with your giving and helping, expecting nothing in return!
Remember the "Golden Rule"?
It can be found across almost all religions if you are religious
- What you wish upon others, you wish upon yourself
- Do not treat others in ways that you would not like to be treated
- Treat others as you would like others to treat you
The things I like to do to help others consist of job searches, I have joined an online gift giving group, praying for others, helping to bring awareness to chronic and invisible illnesses, and offering to blog about others stories. I continue to give to charitable foundations too. I believe that if you give without expecting something in return you will be blessed tremendously. I know that I have been blessed. I will continue to be blessed.
I am not in the physical position any longer to do the things I was once able to do, therefore my "giving" had to change. I adapted my "giving" and "helping" others to the ways that I could best do it. I also expect nothing in return.