Trending now is the #UHateDisabledPeople
Across social media, it is quite sickening and very disheartening how many people are involved in stereotyping and judging what they “believe” is a disability. If you are reading this blog for the first time, it may come off very harshly. I apologize for that, well, not really. Those that are up to date on all the blog posts, understand that chronic illnesses and invisible illnesses are close to my heart and I am really trying to help break the stigma attached to them.
Thousands do NOT understand disabilities. Disabilities are NOT always visible. Disabilities also do NOT make a person incapable of living either. Not ALL disabilities are the same, no two mirror each other, even under the same diagnoses.
Let’s go ahead and look at some of the discriminatory things that people are saying to those with disability placards to start with:
- "I saw you walking, and you seem to walk fine. Show some respect and don't park here."
- "Did you forget your wheelchair?"
- “Are you in a hurry or just lazy?
- "Because of your inconsiderate parking, you took enough room for a whole zoo.”
- *I wish you an early transmission failure on the expressway.”
- “Change and become a decent person, will you?”
- “Saw that there is nothing wrong with you. Know that God is watching you.”
- “You inconsiderate b----, using a spot when neither you nor your child is disabled. You are setting a bad example for your child.”
- “Shame on you for using a space meant for people in wheelchairs.”
These are the notes that are being left on vehicles with disability placards. It is truly astonishing the lack of knowledge humans continue to have surrounding disabilities.
- Asperger Syndrome
- Bipolar disorder
- Brain injuries
- Charcot-Marie-Tooth disease
- Chronic fatigue syndrome
- Chronic pain
- Circadian rhythm sleep disorders
- Coeliac Disease
- Crohn's disease
- Ehlers Danlos Syndrome
- Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder(FASD)
- Food allergies
- Fructose malabsorption
- Hereditary Fructose Intolerance
- Inflammatory bowel disease
- Interstitial cystitis
- Irritable Bowel Syndrome
- Lactose Intolerance
- Lyme Disease
- Major depression
- Metabolic syndrome
- Multiple Sclerosis
- Multiple Chemical Sensitivity
- Myasthenia Gravis
- Personality disorders
- Primary immunodeficiency
- Psychiatric disabilities
- Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy
- Repetitive stress injuries
- Rheumatoid arthritis
- Schnitzler's Syndrome
- Sjogren’s Syndrome
- Trigeminal Neuralgia
- Spinal Disorders
- Temporomandibular joint disorder
- Transverse Myelitis
- Ulcerative Colitis
How unfair is it to label something you know absolutely nothing about? Personally, I have a disability placard, I have invisible chronic illnesses. I have several friends that are in the same unfortunate situations.
Breaking the stigma and bringing awareness is key. Words do hurt regardless of what others think or might say. In a world of judgment, ignorance, hate and injustice, the very least everyone could do is have a little compassion for those with ANY type of disability. You never know what someone is going through internally.
In order to obtain a disability placard, one must receive a certification or sign off by their doctor and take it to DMV. The paperwork is very thorough.
Discrimination surrounding disability parking/ placards is only one aspect of the #UHateDisabledPeople. Employers are guilty of this by way of job descriptions. They place qualifications on their ads “must be able to lift 40 pounds, must be able to stand for 8 hours, must be able to sit for 8 hours.” Yes, this is their prerogative, however, they are not giving those with the invisible illnesses a chance to work, by just tweaking their job descriptions a little.
Most recently while reviewing applications, almost everyone asks, “do you have a disability”. It allows you to answer “Yes, No, I do not wish to answer”, is this not discriminatory? In my opinion, it is. You are being weaned out by answering “yes” or “I do not wish to answer”.
If an employer is not able to discriminate based on age, race, religion, or sexual preference, why is it applicable to place on the applications questions now about your race and if you are disabled?
I have so many questions surrounding why employers can do this and the fact that people are so cruel amplifies the situation.
Just imagine for one moment if one of your friends or family members was treated this way. Please go on Twitter and look for yourself. Check out #UHateDisabledPeople and see what the world is saying to us!
Please share this blog and share awareness. Help break the stigma!
Some of the Twitter comments/ posts from #UHateDisabledPeople
If you think: 1.) Disabled people get too much in benefits 2.) Disabled people should be happy with things the way they are 3.) People in wheelchairs or using walkers 'have it easy' 4.) Our needs aren't important because we're a 'niche' #UHateDisabledPeople
When you go to a emergency room or new specialist office and the staff speak to your partner instead of you. Or they ask you questions but dont believe your answers without your partner confirming what you've said. #UHateDisabledPeople
#UHateDisabledPeople if you think that people with mental illnesses and learning disabilities dont deserve accommodations for school because "it's not fair to the other students" especially if you are a teacher.
When you tell me I don’t seem disabled and expect me to react like it’s a compliment #Uhatedisabledpeople
I have to say, although I have lost support of people I thought were friends and I have lost relationships with family, better relationships have formed! I have friends now that I can talk to about what's going on, they can talk to me. Our illnesses are not identical, however our pain is, our emotions are, God has truly blessed me along this journey. Even on the days I think I cannot handle the pain, I have a few supporters to help me get through.
One of my biggest steps forward lately, is recognising who you really need to share what with. Those that care check on you and you check on them. They are passionate about these exact topics too!
Stay tuned for more awareness...