Over the last several days, it is very apparent that I have been struggling emotionally and mentally. Typically I am the encourager, the positive person, the joyful person. That becomes hard, especially during times when you feel isolated from your normal routine.
I received a text message from Ed’s father. Words of encouragement. Words of positivity. It meant so much to me. Yes, you read the blogs about the close relationship which I have come to establish with Ed’s family. The daily check ins, the weekly visits, our dinners, however, I have become so spoiled with weekly visits. We visit them one to three times a week on Ed’s days off. I have a tremendous amount of respect for Ed’s parents. I count on Ed’s father to even call me out on blog errors or proofing. I trust his opinion.
With that being said, after that text, I felt better. I don’t know why, I just did. It was as though Ed’s father somehow knew what to say to make me feel better. Then Of course Ed tuned into my mental status and was beyond attentive.
Something else happened, completely out of the blue, my biological dad called to check on me (he has never read the blog). We had a real conversation, one that lasted for more than 5 minutes.
So you see, even the people that you expect to be the strongest or think are the strongest need words of encouragement and they also need for someone to check in on them. They need to be told it’s going to be ok. They need a “temperature check”, if you will. A “mental check in”. Even if you don’t even ask how they are, just saying “chin up, it’s going to be okay, you bring joy to our lives”.
Take the time to check in with those who would normally check in on you. Let them know they are important too. Don’t expect them to always be strong and reach out to you.
I am so thankful for that text and words of encouragement from Ed’s father! I am so thankful for Ed’s attention and care! I am so thankful for the conversation with my dad!
Thank you 🙏